Recognize The Symptoms

Sometimes the old symptoms of failure have become the symptoms of new success.

I recently moved. I was in the moving process from Thanksgiving
to my birthday in January. Through Thanksgiving and Christmas and over New
Years and until the movers showed up on the morning of my birthday.

It's been quite a process.

Those of you with brain injuries will understand just how much
of a mental circus moving is when you aren't cognitively firing on all
cylindars. When you remove the very things that keep us efficient (routines and
familiar confines), it's not a huge leap to unglued.

Closing and packing and ordering up utilties and new
insurances....changing addresses and mailing in and mailing out....scheduling
helpful friends who paint and fix walls and plumbing and cut access
panels...replacing locks and waiting on deliveries and inspections and making
lists and amending lists and losing lists and starting new lists....

For six weeks I lived between two places. For the brain injured,
a lovely invitation to disaster....

My purse soon proved ridiculously ill-equipped for the task of
keeping paperwork and more paperwork and two sets of everything from medicines
and tooth brushes and forms to fill out and forms to mail.

I started carrying some of it in a bag. Just a normal grocery
bag. Now I had a purse and a bag.

Well, the bag then only held the stuff from the old house and
not the new house so I started carrying another bag to keep all the paperwork
from the closing, home warranty info, etc. Now I had a purse and two bags.

My friend Linda lives just nearby so I started keeping some
things there. Nice things that I needed for occasions between the move. I
started puttiing my jewelry and watches and some odds and ends into the bag for
her house.

Now I had a purse and three bags. When that became too much, I
gave up the purse. Now I had three bags.

Crazy as I felt and overwhelmed and out of sorts with all the
details and demands, it never even raised an eyebrow when, one day, a small box
occurred to me. It was a nice sturdy box and the weather was lousy so I put
some of my things in the box.

Three bags and a box.

By the next week the box was too small and so I got a slightly
bigger box.

Three bags and two boxes.

Now mind you, I'm carrying these from house to house to Linda's
and to work and back and forth and inside and out.

Linda saw that I was inching ever closer to undone and so she
bought me a tote. She told me I could empty all of my things into this nice new

Now I carried my two boxes and three bags in a tote.

One morning she was going to drive me to my niece's birthday
party. I needed a bag again for my outfit and of course my tote with the two
boxes and three bags. I stood in her doorway with my tote with three bags and
two boxes and my new bag with my better outfit in it and I held up my one boot
and dumped it upside down. Out came my jewelry.

Three bags and two boxes in my tote bag plus my outfit bag and
now my boot bag.

Recognize the symptoms....

She gave me a hug and I cried.

Then we laughed our fool heads off.

Too often when we, as brain injured, dare to leap....dare to
branch out...dare to dip our toes in the pool of "normal", we end up
with a tote, four bags, two boxes and a boot bag that holds our jewelry.

Change can be overwhelming. Paralyzing. New and unfamiliar come
at us like asteroids and we flail at the flurry.

Sometimes it takes a while to realize that six bags, two boxes
and a boot aren't really the way to go.

When I started writing this blog, "Recognize The
Symptoms" was going to be about recognizing when our lives, activities and
situations trigger our brain injury symptoms. To be aware of when we are
getting out of our comfort zone and straying too far from where we know we are
able. But what I realized is that it's more than that.

Thank God.

What feels more true to me, right now, is that maybe we need to
recognize the symptoms of living too. Of reaching. Of growing. Too.

Not just the symptoms which automatically tell us to stop right
there and start retreating. But maybe the symtoms which tell us, Ok, this might
be new territory so be careful but it's OK. Keep going!!!!

Maybe we spend so much time being so keenly aware of when we are
inching too close to "too much" that we don't allow ourselves some
times to realize that we have grown enough to manage more, go further, reach

Maybe six bags, two boxes and a boot are OK, after all.

Maybe we all need to accept, maybe better, INVITE our growing
pains. Maybe we need to welcome safe new steps out of the shelters that have
kept our wits about us.

Maybe some times it's OK if our wits get away. :)

I now say with pride that moving is chaotic and stressful for
any and every one. Brain injury or not. I moved.

The holidays can be chaotic and stressful for any and every one.
Brain injury or not. I moved throughout three holidays.

Winter can be difficult and challenging for any and every one.
Brain injury or not. I moved throughout three holidays and in the middle of

It's a wonder I was only carrying six bags and two boxes and a
boot. I'm surprised I didn't show up with garment bags and bowling bags and
sleeping bags and vacuum bags.

Recognize the symptoms.

Recognize the symptoms of life and of living.

I made it through because I knew Linda and others kept an eye
out for me. They were making sure I was safe. And that's the key.

Stretching our wings and taking new strides will always be great
victories for those of us with brain injury. As long as we have people around
us who can recognize the symptoms too.

It's a great feeling, writing to you in my new home. I made it.
Bags and boxes and all. I feel accomplished. I feel rewarded. I feel satisfied.
I feel flippin' exhausted. Ha.

I can look back and know that I did something that, for a long
time, never even occurred to me as something I might try. Something I might
figure out and manage and devise and execute.

The house I left has a door in the kitchen. On the inside of the
door are marks which noted how tall my brothers and I were growing.

We need to remind ourselves that we keep growing.

That we might just be able to accomplish something that seemed
impossible just a handful of wits ago.

Let's keep testing our wings. Those same wings that failed.
Those same wings that bent and broke and twisted.

Let's keep checking to see if maybe those wings aren't ready now
to fly. :)


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